Simple supports for emotional regulation and sensory relief
When a child with autism feels overwhelmed, it’s not just about the moment—it’s about helping them feel safe, seen, and supported. That’s where calming tools come in.
Whether you're a parent, teacher, or therapist, having a go-to set of tools for emotional regulation can make all the difference—especially for children with mild to moderate autism.
Here are five of my favorite calming tools that are easy to use at home, in the classroom, or on the go.
🧊 1. Cold Washcloth or Ice Cube
Cold sensations can quickly help regulate the nervous system. Gently placing a cold washcloth on the forehead or offering an ice cube to hold can ground a child during a moment of distress.
Bonus Tip: Pair this with slow breathing and a quiet voice for co-regulation.
🌫️ 2. Dim Lights
Overhead lighting can feel harsh for many neurodiverse learners. Dimming the lights or offering a quiet zone with soft lighting helps reduce sensory input and support emotional reset.
🎧 3. Noise-Canceling Headphones
When a child is overwhelmed by noise, headphones can be life-changing. Whether you're dealing with a loud classroom, a restaurant, or even just a busy home, noise-reducing headphones offer an immediate sense of safety.
💨 4. Mirror Calm Breathing
Children often mirror our energy. Sitting close, softening your body, and slowly breathing in and out together can calm both of you. Try breathing in for 4, out for 6, and gently guide your child to match.
🖼️ 5. Visual Choice Board
Sometimes a child doesn’t know what will help until you show them. Use a visual choice board with images like:
- Cold washcloth
- Dim lights
- Hug a stuffed animal
- Ask for space
- Take a breath
Let them point to what they need—it builds agency and reduces pressure.
💙 Final Thoughts
There’s no one-size-fits-all approach to regulation. Some tools work like magic one day and not at all the next—and that’s okay.
What matters is offering consistent, calming options and giving your child the message: “You’re allowed to feel this. I’m here with you.”
If you're looking for ready-to-use visuals and printables, check out our growing library of calming strategies and social stories on Autism Learning Worlds.
With care,
Lauren
Founder, Autism Learning Worlds
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